A very long time ago, when I was a lesbian separatist, the “SM Wars” were at their height. Seps believed that SM (sado-masochistic) sex was internalized patriarchy; that “tops” were perpetuating woman-hatred; and that SM lesbians should not be welcome in lesbian/feminist gatherings. SM lesbians, on the other hand, felt that the sexual choices they . . . → Read More: Fighting the In-Fight: Why Do We Do It?